Many of us grow up believing that love must be earned through care, compliance, and self-sacrifice. We learn to be kind, helpful, and accommodating, often at the cost of our own needs. Over time, these patterns turn into a quiet form of self-abandonment we call people pleasing. To Overcome People Pleasing is to recognize that this behavior began as a way to survive.
As children, we adapted to the emotional climate of our families. If love, approval, or safety felt conditional, our nervous system learned that staying agreeable, capable, or invisible was the best way to maintain connection. But what once kept us safe now keeps us disconnected from our truth.
At Beyond Psychology, we see People Pleasing Recovery not as fixing what’s wrong with you, but as remembering who you are beneath the need to please. It’s about learning to Set Healthy Boundaries, express your truth, and build relationships that feel mutual and real.
Below you can find the video of Myrthe Glasbergen, MSc. about this topic. Prefer to read on? Just scroll below the video!
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Why You Need to Overcome People Pleasing
Living to please others might look like kindness, but it comes at a cost. When you’re always tuned into everyone else’s needs, you lose touch with your own. You may feel anxious when others are upset, struggle to make decisions, or feel drained from overgiving.
Beneath those patterns lies grief. Grief for the times you said yes when you meant no, and for the moments you silenced your truth just to stay loved.
True People Pleasing Recovery begins with compassion. Instead of judging yourself for these habits, you start recognizing the part of you that learned love required self-erasure. Healing means reparenting that part — showing it that love and authenticity can coexist.
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How to Overcome People Pleasing
To Overcome People Pleasing, awareness comes first. Notice when you say yes out of fear, overextend yourself, or apologize for simply existing. Each moment of noticing is a step toward freedom.
Start practicing honesty in small ways, with yourself and others. When you say no and survive the discomfort that follows, you build self-trust. Over time, you’ll realize that boundaries aren’t walls; they’re bridges that protect your connection to self and others.
To Set Healthy Boundaries is to act from truth rather than fear. You stop performing for approval and start expressing what’s real.
From Pleasing to Authentic Connection
Healing doesn’t mean becoming selfish or detached. It means balancing care for others with care for yourself. When you Overcome People Pleasing, you create space for authenticity. Your relationships become more equal, your energy steadier, and your yeses more honest.
At Beyond Psychology, we offer reflections, tools, and resources that support your People Pleasing Recovery journey. Through our Psychologist in Your Pocket membership, you can access guided exercises and self-inquiry tools that help you reclaim your confidence and boundaries.
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To Set Healthy Boundaries is to come home to yourself. It’s realizing that love does not require shrinking, self-sacrifice, or constant giving. You are allowed to take up space, to have needs, and to express them without guilt.
To Overcome People Pleasing is to remember that your worth was never meant to be earned, only remembered.
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