You keep abandoning yourself, but you can learn to stop.
You did not lose touch with what you want by accident. You were trained out of it. Every time you said yes when you meant no, smiled when you were angry, made yourself smaller to keep the peace, you left yourself a little, because once, that was how you stayed safe.
It was never a flaw. It was survival. And what was learned can be unlearned. This free 17-minute guided somatic practice is where that begins: feeling your own yes and no again, in the one place they were never really gone.
Your Yes and Your No
The 17-minute practice to stop abandoning yourself.
By the time most people find this, they can no longer easily feel what they want. The signal is faint, or buried under what everyone else needs, or simply gone quiet.
There is a reason for that. To stay safe, attached, and accepted, you learned to override your own yes and no. To say yes when your body said no. To keep going when it asked you to stop. Do that for enough years, and the body learns to stop sending the signal at all. That is not weakness. It is what adapting to a world that asked you to perform actually costs.
But the signal was never destroyed. It was suppressed, and suppressed is not the same as gone. Your yes and your no still live in your body, underneath the noise, waiting to be felt again.
This practice brings you back to them. Not as an idea in your head, but as a felt sense in the body, where they actually live. In 17 minutes you begin to recognize them again: the quiet contraction of a real no, the open warmth of a true yes.
This is where self-abandonment ends, and the return to yourself begins.
The signal you learned to override
The signal that was always there
17 minutes to come back to your body’s signals.
Find your no
Learn to recognize where your no lives in your body — the tightening, the contraction, the quiet signal you learned to override.
Find your yes
Learn the felt sense of a true yes — the opening, the warmth, the lightness that has always been there beneath the noise.
Begin to trust yourself
Your body knew before your mind did. This practice is about coming back to what you feel, and letting yourself actually hear it.
Myrthe Glasbergen, MSc.
Myrthe Glasbergen is a psychologist, writer, and the founder of Beyond Psychology. Her work explores what it means to become autonomous, sovereign, emotionally mature, and free, beyond the inherited conditioning, the relational patterns, and the systems that shaped you into someone smaller than you are.
This audio is the first step back.
“These two sensations, your yes and your no, are not small things. They are your nervous system’s most honest communication.”