Stay
A guided somatic session for the fear of disappointing others
You know the panic when someone is disappointed in you. The urge to fix, explain, apologize… immediately. This 40-minute guided somatic session for the fear of disappointing others trains your nervous system to stay present instead of fleeing into pleasing. The same work I do in sessions, available whenever you need it.
€ 29,00
When someone is disappointed in you, your body already knows.
The chest tightens. The mind races. Before you’ve even thought about what to say, there’s already an urge to explain, smooth it over, make it right. This is not weakness. This is a nervous system that learned, long before you had words for it, that disappointing someone was genuinely unsafe.
As a child, disconnection was more than uncomfortable. It could mean withdrawal, anger, rejection, or simply no one there to help you hold what you were feeling. Your system created a rule to survive that: keep everyone okay, and you will be okay. That rule was intelligent. It kept you connected when connection meant survival. And it is still running now, automatically, in your body, even when you are safe and even when the person in front of you is nothing like the ones who made it necessary.
What this session does
This is a full somatic session, body-based and trauma-informed, following the same arc I use with clients in my practice as a psychologist. In 40 minutes, you move through the moment of activation in your body without trying to fix it. You gently trace where this fear first made sense, not as a story, but as a body memory. You meet the part of you that learned to panic, and you let your adult self step in beside it. And you practice, in a real and felt way, what it means to stay with yourself instead of fleeing.
Every time you need it.
Why somatic work matters here
People pleasing lives in the body. The tightening, the collapse, the rush to fix — these happen faster than any conscious decision. Understanding the pattern is rarely enough to change it. What your nervous system needs is direct experience: the repeated, felt sense that you can be with the fear without it annihilating you. That disappointment can exist, and you can remain.
Emotional tolerance is a skill. It can be trained, slowly and safely, in exactly the way this session is designed.
A note before you begin
If something in you recognized itself at the top of this page, that recognition is enough. You don’t need to be in crisis to use this. You only need to be ready to practice something different from what you’ve always done when someone is disappointed in you.
That is what Stay is for.
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Špela Vehar – Trauma-informed women’s health specialist –
❝ Oh gosh. I just did it. It is amazing. What I like is that it teaches you to stay with feelings of fear, panic, and anger… to really feel them. And to give the disappointment to the other person. To not carry everything on your shoulders.
This is what I did in the past. I carried my emotions, plus the other side, plus I tried to soothe the situation. Super exhausting and stressful.
I like how you stressed that people pleasing is not a flaw. It’s an intelligent mechanism that helped us survive. When you said that, I had less pity and anger towards myself.
And even if it’s just audio, I felt supported, understood and safe. I don’t feel confident or strong yet, but I do feel calmer. And I now see that one day, bit by bit, my system will reprogram.
Thank you Myrthe, this was really special. My muscles are relaxed now, soft. And now I have a good practice I will come back to when I encounter a similar situation again.❞