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Unshame Yourself
A book for understanding where your shame began & how to return to yourself.
You have spent years believing something is wrong with you. Unshame Yourself shows you it was never a flaw. It was a system you adapted to survive. Across seven chapters and a step by step method, this book traces your shame back to where it started, and walks you through what it actually takes to come home to yourself.
The same understanding I offer clients in session, now yours to return to as many times as you need.
€ 27,00
You were never too much. You were just never safe enough to be yourself.
Somewhere along the way, you learned to shrink. To perform. To read a room before you read yourself. You became fluent in what other people needed, and quiet about what you did. If you constantly feel not good enough, no matter how much you do or prove, this is not a personality trait. It is a wound, and it has a beginning.
Unshame Yourself is the book I wished existed when I started doing this work, both with my clients and in my own life. It traces unworthiness back to where it was actually formed: in the relationships, the conditioning, and the systems that made it safer to adapt than to be yourself. And it shows you, chapter by chapter, how to find your way back.
What this book does
Unshame Yourself takes you through the full arc, from the first wound to the way forward. You will understand where your sense of unworthiness comes from, and why shame became the identity you built your life around. You will recognize the masks you learned to wear, the coping mechanisms, whether that is people pleasing, perfectionism, self-isolation, or a dozen other quiet strategies, and what each of them was actually protecting you from. You will see how suppressed emotion, especially anger, has been running your life from beneath the surface.
And then the book gives you something to do with all of it. The final chapters walk you through a complete seven step method for unshaming yourself, with reflection questions and practices built into every step, so this is not a book you read once and put down. It is one you return to.
Why this book matters
Understanding a pattern intellectually is rarely enough to change it. That is true in session, and it is true here. This book is not about positive thinking, and it does not ask you to fix yourself. It asks you to understand how you adapted, so you can finally choose something different.
The wound of unworthiness rarely comes from one moment. It is built slowly, by a family system, a culture, and a society that rewarded self-erasure and called it good behavior. Naming that is not an excuse. It is the beginning of taking your power back. Once you understand why you learned to disappear, you can start the actual work of becoming visible again, to yourself first.
A note before you begin
You do not need to be in crisis to read this book, and you do not need to be halfway healed already either. You only need to recognize some version of yourself in the words above, and be willing to look honestly at what you find.
This book will not do the work for you. But it will show you exactly where to look, and walk beside you while you do it.
That is what Unshame Yourself is for.
An EPUB file, delivered the moment you purchase. It's formatted to read well on your phone, tablet, or e-reader, and it's yours to keep and return to whenever you like.
No. EPUB files open on any phone or tablet through a free reading app, such as Apple Books or Google Play Books, as well as on e-readers like Kobo. You don't need a special device.
No. You don't need the right words yet, or a clear story ready to tell. The book meets you at recognition first, and builds the understanding and the practice from there.
Yes. The book is built to be reread, especially the seven step method in the final chapter, which most people come back to long after finishing the book once. It's yours to keep.
No. It's a psychological framework drawn from the same work I do with clients, meant to use on your own or alongside therapy, not instead of it when ongoing support is needed.
Ready to Unshame Yourself?
Seven chapters. One method. A book you will return to, not just read once.
If you want somatic, body based practice to go alongside the understanding this book gives you, the Overcome People Pleasing toolkit is where that work continues.
1 review for The Unshame Yourself E-book: A Book on Healing Shame and Unworthiness
About The Creator: Myrthe Glasbergen, MSc.
Psychologist & Founder Beyond Psychology
Myrthe Glasbergen, Msc. is a psychologist, writer, and founder of Beyond Psychology. With a deep understanding of trauma, emotion, and societal conditioning, she guides people to unshame themselves, reclaim authenticity, and break free from patterns that no longer serve. Her work is rooted in radical honesty, emotional depth, and a fierce belief in our capacity to heal and transform.
Antony –
I’d recommend this book to anyone who can relate to dysfunctional family dynamics & intergenerational trauma & is on a path to healing those wounds.