Step 5: Communicate with the Emotion, Feeling, or Sensations

Engage in a dialogue with the emotion you are experiencing. Ask questions to understand its purpose and message. Give yourself permission to express and converse with the emotion openly. By communicating with your feelings, you can begin to unravel their deeper meaning.

You can ask yourself questions like: Who are you? What are you? Why are you here? Do you want to show me something, tell me something? Do you want to warn me? Do you have a need or desire? Let the answers come, take your time. 

Step 6: Expression: Give Voice to What you Feel

In certain cases, it may be beneficial to express the emotion through voice, movement, or art. Allow yourself to embody the feeling and release it authentically. Whether it’s anger, sadness, or fear, find a way to express it in a safe and controlled environment. This step is about catharsis and releasing pent-up emotions.

You can do this by e.g. starting to write as if you ‘are’ the emotion, punch in a pillow, or put your head in the pillow and scream. Really voice and express what the emotion would ‘say’ if it was able to speak. 

Step 7: Communicate: Finding the Core Emotion

Continue the conversation with your emotions to uncover the core feeling beneath the surface. Sometimes, the initial emotion you express may be masking a deeper, more vulnerable emotion. By going deeper and exploring the layers of your feelings, you can gain insight into your true emotional state. You can ask your emotion the question: can you take a step aside and show me what you are masking? 

Step 8: Presence: Breathing & Soothing

Return to a state of presence by focusing on your breath and soothing yourself. Remind yourself that you are safe and capable of navigating your emotions. Practice self-compassion and kindness as you allow the emotion to flow through you. This step is about self-care and nurturing your emotional well-being.

Step 9: Communicate: Find the Unmet Need

Delve into the emotion to identify any unmet needs or desires that may be underlying the feeling. Listen to what the emotion is trying to communicate to you and be open to receiving its message. By addressing the unmet need, you can move towards healing and resolution. For example ask yourself or the emotion(s): What do you need right now?

Step 10: Reflection & Inspired action

Reflect on the entire process and the insights gained from working through your emotions. Which need(s) did you discover? Use this newfound awareness to make positive changes in your life and relationships. Embrace the journey of emotional growth and transformation. What kind of action can you take to meet that need? Listen to intuition and take inspired action based on what you have discovered.  

Emotional Regulation in an Emotionally Immature World

As you embark on the path of emotion regulation, remember that emotional maturity is a valuable skill in a world that often lacks emotional intelligence. By honing your ability to regulate your feelings and emotions, and respond thoughtfully, you contribute to creating a more empathetic and understanding society. 

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