Personal transformation is a journey that many of us embark on in search of a more fulfilling and purposeful life. We yearn to create the dreams and visions that lie within us, and to express our authentic selves. However, the key to achieving this transformation is often overlooked: facing our reality as it is right now.

Radically accepting who we are in the present moment, including our flaws and imperfections, may seem paradoxical. As a psychologist, I understand the desire to “fix” ourselves and become the perfect human being. But the truth is, you already have everything you need to create the life you dream of. By constantly striving for perfection and denying our reality, we block the life force energy that is necessary for personal growth and transformation.

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Escaping Reality: The Wrong Approach

Many people who seek personal transformation often fall into the trap of constantly visualizing their dreams and fantasizing about the future. While visualization and positive thinking can be beneficial, they can also become a distraction from facing our reality in the present moment. By denying our insecurities, fears, and traumas, we prevent ourselves from taking the necessary steps to create real change in our lives. Living in denial of our reality means we are not truly present or grounded in the present moment. Instead, we use our energy to hide our true selves and suppress our emotions. This only serves to hold us back and prevent us from living authentically.

The Path to Personal Transformation

To truly transform ourselves and create the life we dream of, we must start by taking action in the present moment. This means facing our reality as it is and accepting ourselves fully. It may feel uncomfortable and heavy, but it is necessary for growth. In my own journey of personal transformation, I realized that I had been escaping my reality for years. I was so focused on meditating, visualizing, and manifesting my dreams that I neglected to accept and address my present reality. I had to let go of beauty standards, expectations from society and family, and the roles and masks I had constructed for myself.

Are You in Denial?

I had to confront the stories I was telling myself and compare them to my reality. Was I truly being honest with myself and others? Was I speaking my truth or holding back? By comparing my stories to my reality, I discovered that I was denying certain aspects of myself and not fully accepting who I was. Through this process, I realized that I had been holding myself hostage by trying to fit into an idealized version of myself. I was in a relationship and environment that didn’t suit me, and I was denying my own trauma and pain. By facing my reality and accepting my flaws, insecurities, and fears, I found the strength and courage to start walking my authentic path.

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The Importance of Honesty

To truly accept your reality, you must be honest with yourself. Take a moment to reflect on whether you are truly taking the necessary steps to create the transformation you desire. Are you just telling yourself that you are doing the work without actually doing it?

If this question makes you uncomfortable, it may be a sign that you need to face your reality more honestly. Stop denying who you are and where you are. Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are really doing what it takes to create change in your life.

Suppressed Emotions Are Blocking Transformation

If you find yourself not being completely honest with yourself, don’t be too hard on yourself. It is completely normal that you want to deny your reality sometimes. Especially because of the demanding and dysfunctional society that we are living in that is causing us all in some way to experience (relational) trauma and/or emotional neglect. Which in turn leads to feelings of unworthiness and shame. 

It might be the case that suppressed emotions such as anger, grief, shame, or guilt drive self-sabotaging behaviors, making you deny (parts of) your reality. Especially when left unacknowledged, accepted, expressed, and integrated. Perhaps you hesitate to share your feelings due to past negative experiences, because you feel unsafe to be vulnerable or assertive

The Unsafety of Authentic Self-expression

This fear is not unfounded, as we still face physical or emotional harm for authentic self-expression worldwide. The persistent risk of rejection, criticism, or judgment can be retraumatizing and hinder our personal and collective transformation and growth.

Why? Our system is wired for survival, and if you firmly believe that expressing yourself authentically in any way will endanger your survival, your subconscious mind will work to prevent you from doing so. Your system will create obstacles to block you from choosing yourself, speaking your truth, setting a boundary, saying no, speaking up, creating your art, and other authentic expressions.

Inevitably, when you choose to make a change, you will have to face these internal wounds, pain, and grief that reside within you. So, it’s really not that strange that you sometimes rather choose to deny it all.


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The Power of Acceptance

Accepting our reality as it is may seem challenging, but it is the key to personal transformation. When we accept ourselves fully, including our imperfections, we free ourselves from the prison of trying to be someone we’re not. We release the life force energy that is necessary to create change in our lives.

It’s important to understand that accepting our reality doesn’t mean we resign ourselves to staying where we are. Instead, it allows us to see clearly what steps we need to take to create the transformation we desire. By facing our reality, we can let go of our coping mechanisms and shadow tactics that hold us back. We can identify our true desires and needs and align our actions with our authentic selves.

It takes courage to face our reality and embrace the present moment, but the rewards are immense. By doing so, we free ourselves from the endless pursuit of perfection and find true empowerment and fulfillment.

Take the First Step

If you resonate with the concept of personal transformation and want to start creating change in your life, I invite you to take the first step. Reflect on whether you are truly accepting your reality and taking the necessary actions to create transformation. If discomfort arises, it may be a sign that you have been denying your reality.

Remember, the path to personal transformation starts with acceptance. Embrace your reality as it is, and release the energy that is needed to manifest your dreams and visions. The journey may not always be easy, but the freedom and fulfillment that await are worth it.


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